I was just reading through some blogs of friends and I came across this awesome chunk of wisdom in a blog my friend wrote about being single. It’s just a portion of what he wrote and I think it is profound. I love this, it’s worth reading and applying to our lives.

“Being single is so much easier when we know that we have someone to “fall back on”. It takes away the risk of being single when we know we are liked, because then it is totally in our control as to whether or not we choose to stay single and in the desert or choose to jump back in the game and play with the broken leg. It deters from us trusting in God. Not to mention, we all are naturally wired for community, and crave that piece where we want to be romantically wanted.

But as a wise friend reminded me, it isn’t about these relationships here. It’s about our relationship with God, and when we have our perspectives right, focused on Him first, then it won’t even matter who doesn’t romantically want to be involved with us. When my perspective is on God first, it won’t matter if she is thinking about me or not. When my perspective is in the right place, it won’t matter if she begins to fall for him or not. When my perspective is in the right place, I can then begin to properly heal my brokenness through the grace and wisdom of God, so that when she does come along, I will be a better man for her.

Why is it that we so desperately run from what we need to what we think we want?”